I’m convinced New Years Resolutions are at least partly successful, if for nothing else that the 6-8 weeks of holiday distractions (family, travel, gift shopping, holiday treats, etc) are finally over. January is a blank canvas where you can finally find some traction.
begueradj 16 hours ago [-]
For a man to succeed, he should maintain good habits to fulfill a purpose.
The habits and the purpose are doomed to fail if not guided by a meaning.
The meaning the man finds or invents for his life.
WarOnPrivacy 15 hours ago [-]
> habits and the purpose are doomed to fail if not guided by a meaning.
To complicate this, I offer that purposes can be unknown to the doer (w/ their meaning even further from awareness).
ex: What drives behavior tied to self-esteem may never be known, yet the behavior continues for a lifetime.
xnx 16 hours ago [-]
Any tips on finding or inventing that meaning?
woleium 15 hours ago [-]
pick one, it’s not as important as it seems, and you will refine it and improve it with time. My only suggestion would be to avoid seeking money, which it is just a tool, not a destination
lemonberry 15 hours ago [-]
I don't remember if it had practical tips for finding/creating meaning in your life, but "Man's Search for Meaning" by Viktor Frankl. Great book. He survived a concentration camp during the holocaust. The book is about how having meaning in life was a crucial part of his and other's survival. I highly recommend it.
Full disclosure: I think of finding meaning often, but have struggled with it. I suspect this has to do with my current situation and I hope to remedy that when it changes.
One more thing: if you're a man please find friends and build a community as you age. Many of us are terribly lonely once we reach a certain age. I believe working on my social and community life will help me find that meaning. Maybe that's the same for you.
Good luck!!
WarOnPrivacy 14 hours ago [-]
> I think of finding meaning often, but have struggled with it. I suspect this has to do with my current situation and I hope to remedy that when it changes.
> I believe working on my social and community life will help me find that meaning.
I also found that performing service helps fill the void where I feel purpose and meaning are missing. And if service isn't the whole solution, a partially filled void is easier to top off.
ToucanLoucan 15 hours ago [-]
I've found the best times to build new habits are when my existing habits are already being disrupted. It gives a "clean slate" effect where I can change things as radical as my sleep schedule, my eating habits, what have you when the old habits are already disrupted. In this way, the New Year absolutely fits the bill: the hectic holiday season, at least for me, disrupts all of my normal rhythms of day to day life, and I find myself yearning in January for a good amount of boredom, at least for awhile.
I also use things like business trips that have me away from home for a week, or planned vacations. Beforehand I get whatever I want ready, be it a home workout routine, a gym membership, what have you and then once all my routines are out of sorts, I can leap straight into a new set of them with seemingly far less friction.
YMMV of course.
mncharity 14 hours ago [-]
IIRC, this disruption lowering of barriers to new habits, with its drop in customer acquisition cost, makes pregnancy a highly valued signal for advertisers.
It was also something I appreciated about travel-as-lifestyle.
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The habits and the purpose are doomed to fail if not guided by a meaning.
The meaning the man finds or invents for his life.
To complicate this, I offer that purposes can be unknown to the doer (w/ their meaning even further from awareness).
ex: What drives behavior tied to self-esteem may never be known, yet the behavior continues for a lifetime.
Full disclosure: I think of finding meaning often, but have struggled with it. I suspect this has to do with my current situation and I hope to remedy that when it changes.
One more thing: if you're a man please find friends and build a community as you age. Many of us are terribly lonely once we reach a certain age. I believe working on my social and community life will help me find that meaning. Maybe that's the same for you.
Good luck!!
> I believe working on my social and community life will help me find that meaning.
I also found that performing service helps fill the void where I feel purpose and meaning are missing. And if service isn't the whole solution, a partially filled void is easier to top off.
I also use things like business trips that have me away from home for a week, or planned vacations. Beforehand I get whatever I want ready, be it a home workout routine, a gym membership, what have you and then once all my routines are out of sorts, I can leap straight into a new set of them with seemingly far less friction.
YMMV of course.
It was also something I appreciated about travel-as-lifestyle.